Some of you might have been wondering why I have not been posting much on Imodeler lately. To be perfectly honest I have lost my "mojo"... we have been dealing with my step son. He is 44 years old, a functioning alcoholic AND a diabetic. Topping things off he is homeless as a result of the booze, and now he lives out of his car. He was married, he had a good job, and he worked at the same place for 17 years, and they also had a nice home. The key word here is "had".
Now he has lost everything I just told you about. He is no longer married, and he lost his job. Then he lost his house, and several body parts had to be amputated. He lost several toes one time on one foot. Then he lost a big toe on the other foot several months later...
Recently he had his lower leg amputated just below the knee because of his diabetes not being under control. Now we find out he is going blind as well. He has lost the vision in one eye, and he is losing it in the other. I would not be surprised if he ends up totally blind, as we recently found out during one of his eye specialist office visits.
My wife and I have been helping him out as much as we can, with food and such, never giving him cash... But enough is enough, we will no longer be an "enabler". We found out that he still would rather drink... His mom (my wife) recently found an empty Vodka bottle and one that was about 3/4 full stashed away inside his car. This happened after he had just told us that he was remaining sober and had been so for almost a year. When we confronted him with the bottles, he tried to lie his way out of it, as he has been doing for years it turns out.
What a crock of total BS ! This lie he has been telling us was the final thing that caused my wife to realize that until he wants to change and help himself, he will continue to drink.
Keep in mind that my wife recently has had a very aggressive cancer, called primary peritoneal cancer, and she has undergone several surgeries, and endured 8 rounds of chemotherapy, which caused her to lose all of her hair...yet she still was doing things for her son...
and he would LET her ! I am SO furious at him right now. He took advantage of his mom who has since recovered from her cancer, but since it is so aggressive, it will likely come back at any time. They gave her a window of 2 to 2.5 years, and it has been 2 years now... This is why they didn't remove her chemotherapy port.
Yet he would take advantage of his mom... Total loser in my book. So if anyone can learn from our experiences, please don't drink excessively. Moderation is the key, if you drink at all. Personally, after what we have witnessed with him, (as well as my former jobs working as a police officer and firefighter, / EMT) I don't drink. I have seen what happens to others because of alcohol. It can be devastating, so neither my wife or I drink.
Now that I have this off my chest, I will try my best to get back to business as usual. π
Sorry for the rant.
George, @gblair
This is great news ! I hope that my build goes well enough to be an example for others to follow. I have read various online build reviews, and only one has been what I would consider as difficult. The rest have been good experiences as best as I can tell.